Do you feel like you’re constantly behind on things on your never ending task list? Do you find that daily responsibilities overwhelm you and you’re embarrassed that you can’t “keep up”? Whether you’re currently wondering if you have ADHD or if you’ve recently been diagnosed, finding out in adulthood that what you’ve been struggling with is ADHD all along brings many mixed emotions that therapy can help you process. It’s never too late to understand yourself better.

Do you ever feel lonely in relationship with your parents in a way that’s hard to describe? Maybe you have no relationship at all due to their mental health struggles, substance use, or history of hurtful, narcissistic behavior. It can be deeply painful growing up feeling unheard and that your emotional needs never really mattered. Therapy can help you work through and heal from difficult parent relationships, learn to set clear boundaries, and break cycles of generational family trauma.

Do you monitor your words and actions to make sure you “say it right”? Do you set impossibly high standards for yourself or other people? Do you rarely cut yourself slack? If you’re a perfectionist, you are almost certainly familiar with feeling like you’re failing. The truth is, if pushing yourself harder worked, it would’ve worked by now. Therapy can help you to unlearn and heal from these patterns, and recognize your value and worth in new ways without burning yourself out. Life is too short to have to be perfect.

Do you find yourself putting others first all the time? Maybe you change how you act depending on who you’re around, because you want to fit in and make others happy and comfortable. You are over-accommodating at the cost of your own happiness. When the people close to you are upset, it feels like you have to fix it - that it brings intense anxiety should someone not like you. Therapy can help you with setting boundaries, connecting with yourself and your needs, work through the guilt of saying “no”, and help build your self esteem.

Do you often feel restless and on edge? Do you find your thoughts keep you stuck in the past or worrying about the future? Maybe you’ve had a well meaning friend tell you to “just not worry about it” or “don’t overthink it” and you have no idea how you’d even do that when your brain has nonstop racing thoughts. Therapy can help to uncover the underlying causes of your worries and fears, learn tools of how to relax, look at situations in a new, less frightening way, and develop better coping mechanisms and problem-solving skills.

Have you been having difficulty in your romantic relationships? Individual therapy can help with overcoming commitment and abandonment fears; healing from a painful breakup or infidelity; new relationship anxiety; addressing loneliness; developing healthy relationship skills; and situations where your partner is unwilling to attend couples counseling with you. Therapy can help you gain insight into attachment wounds that have been the source of your recurring relationship problems.